Hello me and my readers
As always here I navigate through the complexities of human lives and situations using the stories and details in our lives we don't notice and skip. But why do we skip? Do we want to skip?
Today, I am going to write. As I didn't wrote the last time. I skipped and broke my chain. But, still I am writing this one.
What it could mean? Do I want to write? Or do I don't want to? If I do want to write, then why I didn't wrote the last time, and if I don't want to, why am I writing this one?
What does it tells you about me?
You would make excuse for me. May be something critical might have happened. May be he was ill. I am making excuses for me too. Yes I was too busy to write anything meaningful.
What is the difference between excuse and reasoning. Or does there exists any of them?
Now consider if this newsletter was a paid thing. Now you won't take any excuse or reasons. That would be a lousy service from my side. I will do the same. I don't care, if I am paying for something, and if I am not given services as expected, I would get angry too. When the things are free of charge, not only the service is lousy, but also our expectations as a customer too.
But why do we skip ourselves? Are we considering ourselves free? You see? This all relates to devaluing ourselves.
We devalue ourselves.
This is wrong in every sense. Let me prove it to you, and me.
First we start beginning devaluing ourselves. Why do we do it? Simple. We don't have any reason to value ourselves either. What you are? A prime minister? Even if you try to feel yourselves important, people around you will let you know your place.
Second, see, we are the service giver and we are the customer of ourselves. As we are the low value person in our life, we don't give a damn. As a service we do lousy things to ourselves. As a customer, we have lousy expectations from ourselves.
Third, What does it all results in? Low quality output in business? Yes, low quality output in our lives too. We are not a paying customer of ourselves. Which is why we don't care much. Other people, their opinions starts getting more valuable then ours. And so the priorities too. We are not able to prioritize ourselves.
Fourth, what does it all ends up in? We being a low quality person. Who was not given the attention and service from ourselves as needed.
Now the irony is that, we being a low quality person are not suitable and fir to help others too. And we become more useless for others too.
This is an irony because we begin to prioritize serving other people finding them more valuable than us, but we end up not able to help them as we would remain no more quality provider ourselves.
You see, this is logically a mistake! But where does the root of all this begun?
We devalue ourselves.
That is why I skipped. That is why you skipped complaining me either. That is why you and me both skipped the body exercise we need to do. And we both skipped to make ourselves feel good.
We skip because we devalue ourselves.
Now how to heal this?
BY NOT SKIPPING.
Next time whenever a situation comes where you might want to skip something you committed on, don't skip. So that you can remind yourselves that you are the Most Important Customer of your life.
We become how we keep ourselves (Book: Atomic Habits) and thus, we need to keep voting for the right identity. And that is, don't skip. And thus feel great to choose yourself.
Choose Yourself.
Thanks for reading.
Yours fellow self devaluing writer so far
Shubham Ramdeo